“It’s hard to have that sort of conversation [about what the other person wants with sex] if there’s no intimacy”

In theory, when it comes to sex, it might make sense to talk about what the other person wants as it’s happening. But to do so, you might have to be a little bit tender, a little bit vulnerable. It’s hard to have that sort of conversation if there’s no intimacy.

Emily Bazelon, “The Meaning of Yes”, The New York Times Magazine (26 October 2014), 13.