“It’s never been cheaper to start a dating site and never been more expensive to grow one”
There are about 4,500 online dating companies, according to a report by the market...
Category Archives: Courtship/Dating
“Courtship has always been dictated by changes in the market”
The generation of Americans that came of age around the time of the 2008...
“If you want to understand why ‘Netflix and chill’ has replaced dinner and a movie, you need to look at how people work”
If you want to understand why “Netflix and chill” has replaced dinner and a...
“Dating itself is a recent invention. It developed when young people began moving to cities and women began working outside private homes”
Dating itself is a recent invention. It developed when young people began moving to...
“We use this kind of language because the ways that people date…have always been tied to the economy”
We constantly use economic metaphors to describe romantic and sexual relations. Few people today...
“The deep sense of frustration many singles experience is compounded by a community that they feel judges and blames them”
Many singles experience a huge amount of pain and frustration as they struggle for...
“What many singles need most is not someone else to meet, but to meet him or herself”
As a relationship coach, I am often asked, “Can you suggest someone nice?” as...
“…if you are married and your relationship gets into trouble, you have a relationship problem. But if your issue is…”
I contacted two of the most important relationship organizations in the English-speaking world and...
“Older singles require a proportionally greater ‘hope’ for a better future with any given person”
Assuming that all relationships take effort and involve some “cost” of time, money, freedom,...
Online dating can “put people into boxes…”
Someone who views life and romance holistically (not focusing inordinately on surface criteria), or who is not photogenic, or does not present a desirable dating resume (because of something like age, weight, height, income level), may have better luck meeting dates in real life, especially if she/he has confidence and charisma.
“Online dating puts people into boxes,” says Will Winter, a Manhattan psychiatrist and singles expert. “It strengthens people’s perfectionistic tendencies when it comes to superficial criteria, and that’s not the way to go into relationships.”
Younger women who try online dating frequently complain about inboxes flooded with hundreds of notes from eager suitors who haven’t read their profiles. The men writing those messages probably fantasize that these 20something women are looking for a relationship with them; in reality, many younger women are just trying online dating as a lark or an ego boost. Meanwhile, many 30- and 40something men who claim to want meaningful connection don’t search for women who are in their own age range or slightly older — and those are the women most likely to be looking for true love online.
Heather Robinson, “Boxed-In By Online Dating”, The Jewish Week (29 November 2013), 49.