“Parenting is a universal phenomenon, so it is hard to say that there is a Jewish way to parent”
Parenting is a universal phenomenon, so it is hard to say that there is a Jewish way to parent. There is no uniquely Jewish way to conceive or to breast-feed or to discipline a child. Nevertheless, how we express the universal desire to create life and pass it on is embedded in the culture and […] continued…
“What does it mean to be a hip-hop parent?”
What does it mean to be a hip-hop parent? For me, it means moving heaven and earth to protect my daughter from any hint of the menace that threatened my own teenage years. It means selectively introducing her to the music I loved at her age, sometimes coaxing an approving grin from her, sometimes getting […] continued…
“Our kids should never be more important than our marriage, and they should never be less important”
Our kids should never be more important than our marriage, and they should never be less important. If they’re more important, the little rascals will sense it and use it and drive wedges. If they’re less important, they’ll act out until they are given priority. Family is about the constant, on-going work of finding the […] continued…
“Young Orthodox men and women today come into marriage confused”
Young Orthodox men and women today come into marriage confused. Sexual images pervade their magazines, billboards, and phones informing them of things we never imagined and elevating their curiosity. They are taught to avoid sexual peering, discussion and exploration. They are taught over and over about being shomrei negiah (not touching non-family members of the […] continued…
“The idealized vision of 1950s womanhood that still permeates our politics ignores the fact that staying home may not actually make mothers happy”
The idealized vision of 1950s womanhood that still permeates our politics ignores the fact that staying home may not actually make mothers happy. Unfortunately, there’s no robust feminist ideal to counter it. Instead, we fall back on the language of “choice”: that it’s best if women simply get to choose to work or stay home, […] continued…
“…the women are super double tanked — that to be a modern, urbane woman means to be a serious drinker”
That’s the summer I realize that everyone around me is tanked. But it also dawns on me that the women are super double tanked — that to be a modern, urbane woman means to be a serious drinker. This isn’t a new idea — just ask the Sex and the City girls (or the flappers). A woman with a […] continued…
“…the more the children of the better-off were cherished, and pampered, the worse the treatment of the children of the poor appeared to be”
If Victorian- and Progressive-era middle-class moralists were newly concerned about the dead and dying babies of the poor, it was partly because their own babies were, for the first time, not dying. And the more the children of the better-off were cherished, and pampered, the worse the treatment of the children of the poor appeared […] continued…
“…I think that having a good sex life is often very much entwined with having a certain level of intimacy in the marriage…”
I want to sort of debunk a myth. I think people assume that, when somebody has an affair, that the marriage was bad or that there was a problem in the marriage. And that’s kind of a complicated idea because, while it’s probably true that if you take couples who have had affairs, for sure, […] continued…
“I blame [her] for a lot…just in case you thought you could get one…hour off the clock”
Do you remember the Enjoli perfume commercial from the 1970s? The chick who could bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never let you forget you’re a man? I blame that bitch for a lot. For spreading the notion that women should have a career, keep house, and fuck their husbands, […] continued…
“Continuity is not an end in itself, but a culture’s purpose is not to be an ephemeral work of performance art”
Marriage in the classical sense is a commitment to sustainability. Continuity is not an end in itself, but a culture’s purpose is not to be an ephemeral work of performance art. When continuity becomes its own justification, opposition to intermarriage is plausibly seen as racism. But it is more than evident that Judaism will not […] continued…
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