Sex / University

“Are there ways to indicate you’re into it without having to say yes over and over again?”

Of course, part of the teaching is all about context. What do you actually say if you want to say stop, or are unsure, or need a minute to think about it? Are there ways to indicate you’re into it without having to say yes over and over again?

And what about the larger cultural framework? How do you tackle these concepts in a world where women are empowered to say yes — but taught that they must be coy when they do it? When they’ve been socialized to think that “yes” means you’re a slut, “maybe” means you’re a tease, and “no” means you’re a prude — or that, from the male perspective, as one friend recently put it, “no is always negotiable”?

Jessica Bennett, “Campus Sex … With a Syllabus”, The New York Times (9 January 2016) [http://www.nytimes.com/2016/01/10/fashion/sexual-consent-assault-college-campuses.html]